Ryan Posted March 4, 2006 Report Posted March 4, 2006 It's not just out of respect though. It's just the name she knows him by. If you had a friend you had always known as Bob, you wouldn't suddenly start calling him Jim. But that is only relevant if the persons name is Jimbob and thouhgh I'm sure we've got a member called that, I don't know anyone called that.
TabbyCool Posted March 4, 2006 Report Posted March 4, 2006 It's not just out of respect though. It's just the name she knows him by. If you had a friend you had always known as Bob, you wouldn't suddenly start calling him Jim. But that is only relevant if the persons name is Jimbob and thouhgh I'm sure we've got a member called that, I don't know anyone called that. You think of everything Ryan! But about hte respect thing, most older people I've met introduce themselves by their first name, so it seems only right to call them by the name they tell you. If someone introduced themselves as Mr or Mrs rather than their first name, then yes, that's what I'd call them, but it would seem rather formal and a bit strange to me. The last time I had to call anyone Mr or Mrs was when I was at school, but now that I'm an adult, I don't see any reason why I shouldn't call another adult by their first name, unless I have been specifically told otherwise. Even in primary school, I would call the school dinner ladies by their first names, my grandma was a dinner lady and that's how she introduced them to me and they didn't mind at all. Also, the chief executive at work asks people to just call him Robert, rather than Mr or sir or whatever, so I don't think it's disrespectful at all.
spacey Posted March 7, 2006 Report Posted March 7, 2006 The 4000 episode when Sally ws making that speech to Alf was very moving. It just characterised their whole relationship. I would imagine she keeps saying Mr Stewart as that is always what she called him.
ste Posted March 7, 2006 Report Posted March 7, 2006 Sometimes she called her Ailsa, sometimes she called her Mrs Stewart. I have clips of her doing both. She has always called Irene "Irene" though I don't think anyone's called her Mrs Roberts.
MargaretB Posted March 7, 2006 Report Posted March 7, 2006 Is is probably because she grew up calling him Mr Stewart. When I was younger and working in a Bank, we all had to call each other Miss .. or Mr ... when out in the banking hall. All the depositers were called Mr, Mrs, Doctor, whatever. Times have changed and I personally prefer to be called by my first name, even by children. But when I think back to people in my childhood, I think "Mr Hesketh", Mrs Egan" etc.
Emmadolly Posted March 8, 2006 Report Posted March 8, 2006 [i still always call my aunts uncles and family friends uncle aunt or mr and mrs.And I'm 30 now and married with my own family now yet i still do it. I dont use their first name and ive known these people all my life. It's called RESPECT FOR YOUR ELDERS. Something the younger generation of today seem to have forgotten all about . Any other opinions on this? It's not that calling older people by their first name is disrespectful, some people prefer it as it's less formal. I do think it's a bit strange how we all have first names, but it is seen as disrespectful to call someone by that name. Also, is it disrespectful to call people your own age by their first name? If not, why do people automatically get more respect because of their age? I'm not disrespectul of my elders, I just think respect is a mutual thing and that younger people should be treat with the same respect that an older person would expect. Excellent point you made, it does go both ways. I agree its a respect thing when my now husband and i got together when we were fifteen and i called her mrs......... I have now been married to her son for 9 years and still call her mrs ......... I have always called my mother in-law, and father in-law, by their first names. It is not disrespectful, but it is called a family. Two families coming together without being formal about things. And at ease with one another, it is great
Emmadolly Posted March 8, 2006 Report Posted March 8, 2006 The point of this post, was not about Sally's respect for Alf. As we all know the answer to that. It was about how they have been a shoulder to cry on, for each other for years. And Sally still does not call him Alf, or He has not said to her, please call me Alf. It is out of respect, but it does not seem right when she says Mr Stewart. I hate being called Mrs ....., as i think i am to young to be called that. LOL.
TabbyCool Posted March 8, 2006 Report Posted March 8, 2006 The point of this post, was not about Sally's respect for Alf. As we all know the answer to that. It was about how they have been a shoulder to cry on, for each other for years. And Sally still does not call him Alf, or He has not said to her, please call me Alf. It is out of respect, but it does not seem right when she says Mr Stewart. I hate being called Mrs ....., as i think i am to young to be called that. LOL. I still find it strange when people refer to me as a lady, like little kids and people in shops and stuff, it just seems odd! I guess I'm used to being a girl, not a lady, it takes some time getting used to! I wonder if I ever will, I'm 23 now, so it's not like I've just left school or anything!
ste Posted March 9, 2006 Report Posted March 9, 2006 Yeah I know what you mean. A few people have called me "sir" lately and I don't like it! Makes me feel oooold.
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